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Abigail's avatar

Beautifully written!

Answering both questions in your last two paragraphs

Yes, I do...the thoughts come quite a number of times.

Had a similar story too, two years ago during the lockdown and mine was even virtually...when an older cousin passed The news shocked me, but didn't have so much effect till the funeral/burial. Moreso, watching the wife and kids cry and inlaws made it so unbearable

That same year, a physical one was my aunt...saw her last the previous year but we spoke and video called during the lockdown

Just like you described in this article, it was so unreal too even during the lying-in-state. I was one of those that didn't shed a tear looking at her physical body. Rather than cry, I was weakened, blank and numb....it was an overwhelming cloud of feelings...fear, sadness and all...

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Serenity's avatar

Oh dear, it's really a mix of many emotions. I am hoping you're able to get through them as life goes on🤗

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Akpan Shadrach's avatar

Beautiful Write up.

Yes often I do, especially for my parents.

I haven't really had the experience of losing a family member, All praise to God.

But I have had the experience of losing a colleague turned brother/friend on the 5th of August 2016. It was a very painful experience because he passed on with his head on my laps while at the hospital.

It was very painful. Had to at some point accept that he was truly gone, like that's the end. I remember one my friends and I begging Him to get up, hitting and pushing him hard. My friend even stayed for extra 30mins plus praying that he wakes up. It all happened like a dream. The pain was severe.

Well like they say "time heals all wounds."

I always remember him and recall vividly the happenings of that day every 5th day of August.

Last last this life is like a vapour that can vanish at anytime. God help us to maximize the time we still have and exit at a good old age

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Serenity's avatar

I can't even imagine how I would react, if someone took their last breathe on my laps. So sorry for this loss dearie🤗

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Jorne Ed's avatar

there's something about life that breaks us—no, it opens us up to worlds outside of our kaleidoscopic reality—where everything can be (and must be) felt—all lights eventually go out—and we'd someday be home, again.

i think about death all the time. it helps me stay kinda sane about all of us—and i look forward to dying withholding nothing.

BTW i don't think we get by (escape) from losing someone to death—it just never happens. 😅

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Serenity's avatar

Hmmm, your last thoughts. So we always just carry on the vacuum they had created. I kinda agree.

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Jorne Ed's avatar

we carry on, just as the universe live on knowing every black hole exist in place of a dead star. we'll all supernova some day 😊

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